Managing Difficult Behaviors

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Difficult behavior is an unfortunate by-product of Alzheimer’s disease.

Managing difficult behaviors is one of the biggest caregiver challenges we face. People living with memory loss don’t realize they’re being unreasonable. Difficult behavior is an unfortunate by-product of their disease.

Navigating our loved one’s behaviors and our own emotions is crucial to caregiving success. However, no one has a clear path to making that happen. In this episode, I talk to Dr. Natali Edmonds and get specific advice on managing difficult behaviors.

I started with one that I’m currently facing. The caregivers who help Mom with showers have told me that she’s started fighting their help. There are times when it takes an extra person to hold her hands which sounds truly unpleasant for all involved.

Caring for my Mom is a challenge because she’s very independent and refuses help. Helping her, even offering help makes her mad. Allowing her to do things on her own and keeping her safe is extremely difficult.

Thankfully, this conversation gave me tips and ideas on how to help Mom without upsetting her. Mom always wants to be helpful so I need to use that to my advantage. Giving her “helpful” things to do makes Mom feel useful. Not only does this make her happy it also makes her more compliant.

You’ll gain new tips and a new resource in less than an hour. Sit back, relax and enjoy.

 

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Caregiving In Harmony, Not Conflict – Eldercare Mediator

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Conflict is part of human nature.

Conflicts are a natural part of human interaction. However, natural conflicts can turn into outright wars when we’re stressed and trying to make tough decisions. When a parent has a medical emergency or is in obvious need of more support, it’s important for everyone to agree on the next steps. Unfortunately, that’s not usually what happens.

Calling in an elder care mediator can be transformative. A mediator is a neutral party who takes into consideration everyone’s needs and feelings. Utilizing a mediator can open our eyes to solutions that we weren’t able to see before.

How exactly can an elder care mediator help navigate conflict? Similar to a therapist, but with specific goals to reach, a mediator will listen carefully to everyone’s opinions and help find satisfactory solutions.

The good news is there are options for those of us who want to improve things on our own. A mediator can coach you through different scenarios and help you see another perspective.

During our conversation, I had a couple of “light bulb” moments. Because of these moments, I opted to work with Katharina. It was my hope that I could fix my side of the many childhood issues that plagued my relationship with my sister.

You’ll have to tune in to a future bonus episode to see how successful our sessions were.

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Caregiver Grief – A Practical Discussion

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Caregiver grief is real & it’s not just something you can “power through”.

The loved one you’re caring for is still around yet you feel their loss. Some think this is depression but it’s actually a form of caregiver grief. It’s commonly referred to as anticipatory grief and it’s very common when caring for someone with an incurable disease.

This kind of grief can hurt as much as what you feel when your loved one dies. Sometimes, it’s more. You can’t ignore what you’re feeling and hope it goes away. Allow yourself the time to process what you’re feeling and appreciate the time you have left.

In this episode, two caregivers talk to a grief counselor about their unique struggles and feelings. It’s a discussion about those feelings and how to move forward with them.  Each caregiver’s situation is different and so too are their emotions. It’s useful to bring in someone with training and experience to help us navigate our emotions.

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Raising An Aging Parent

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Raising an Aging Parent

At what point did we become the parent to our parents? For some of us, this transition happened slowly over time. Others have been thrust into the role because of a crisis. Regardless of how the role-reversal happened, it comes with a host of challenges we may not be ready for.

How could this transition be easier? By learning how to raise an aging parent! In his book, Dr. Ken Druck outlines the many ways we can improve our conversations to better help us live the second half of our lives.

The three cornerstones of Raising an Aging Parent are strengthening the bonds between adult children, children and, their aging parents. Forging collaborative relationships between siblings and establishing a new norm for the second half of life.

In Raising an Aging Parent readers will learn;

  • Steps for clearing the air & moving forward with siblings
  • How to support/help aging parents transform adversity (i.e. change loss & decline into opportunity
  • What to do when an aging parent resists change

Despite coming from a family of poor communicators and caring for a Mom who can’t communicate well anymore, I found this book very helpful. At some point, we need to learn to express our wishes to our families in a loving way. In turn, they need to learn to hear our hearts, not just our words. That is what I took away from this book. I’m confident that you will gain something useful too.

 

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Alzheimer’s Trippin’ With George

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When your spouse is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s do you run for the hills or plan a cross country trip? Alzheimer’s Trippin’ with George.

Alzheimer’s Trippin’ with George, a novel.

When your spouse is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, do you run for the hills or plan a 10,000-mile trip? Thankfully, today’s guest planned the trip, blogged about it and turned her experiences into two books!

After caregiving for her Mom, Susan was ready for freedom.  When she married George, it was with the understanding if something serious happened to either of them, she was OUT! George was diagnosed with progressive dementia, likely Alzheimer’s just before their 40th anniversary. He asked her to stay until after that date. Naturally, Susan planned a cross country trip.

Susan has always been a wanderlust personality. Even at the tender age of three, she’d take off to “parts unknown”. Understandably, she caused her family a great deal of worry.

Alzheimer’s Trippin’ with George is a brutally honest journal. In it, Susan describes the challenges they faced after his diagnosis.  Many people along their journey encouraged this openness knowing it would help others.

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