Anniversary Episode! Fading Memories is 1 Year Old!

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In honor of our first anniversary we’re showing off our new caregiver superhero!

 

It’s our anniversary! One year ago I held my breath and released Fading Memories into the internet. It was my hope that I would reach other caregivers like myself. Wanting to provide great information, guests and inspiration was my goal but more has come from this endeavor.

First, podcasting is a lot more fun than I expected. I’ve “met” a lot of fantastic people even if most of them are only on the other side of a computer monitor.  When I started the podcast I didn’t realize how large the caregiver support community truly was. It’s exciting to be part of that community. Learning new ways to care for my Mom has been the biggest bonus to podcasting.

Getting ready to record my anniversary episode I re-listened to many of my own episodes. My very first one, Living With Alzheimer’s was a homerun. Talking to Pam Montana, a woman with younger onset Alzheimer’s was informative and inspirational. Not every episode has been as good as that first one, but all of them have had good information to share.

Interviewing Other Podcasters

Interviewing other podcasters has been fun and I’ve done that on 3 occasions. The first was Psychology in Seattle. Initially we were supposed to discuss how to talk to kids about Alzheimer’s. We ended up talking about my struggles and feelings. Fortunately, I did find someone to discuss how to talk to kids about Alzheimer’s. That would be the author of Weeds in Nana’s Garden, Kathryn Harrison. She was the Mom of very young children when her Mom developed the disease. Great book, great conversation.

My second podcaster interview came via a Twitter message. Cory, one of the co-hosts of the podcast Switch The Envelope was recommended to me by his partner. Cory had just recently lost his grandmother to Alzheimer’s. I talked to both Cory and his Mom about how their family tackled the problem of helping their Dad/Grandfather when caregiving became too much for him.  Calling that episode The Care Committee was an easy choice, because Cory’s family did create a committee to tackle everything that needed handling.

His episode was released in 2 parts, because we talked so long, the week before Thanksgiving. I wanted anyone who was going to have to have tough conversations with family to hear how his family managed. I think Cory’s family is a blueprint for every other family dealing with this disease.

Dogs In the News reached out to me to help spread awareness of the program Carmen’s Legacy. They train dogs to be canine caregivers. I’ve been a dog lover/owner all my life so I was excited to learn about these dogs. What I find interesting is you, my listeners, were more interested in long term care insurance than dogs. Do yourself a favor, check out Canine Caregivers, it’s a fun episode.

What’s Coming in Year Two?

I could write a novel on everything that I’ve learned and experienced this first year but I won’t. Just listen to the episode, I managed to make it less than an hour!!

Shortening up the episodes is still a goal, but some guests have so much fantastic information it’s hard. I’ll keep trying though.  The goal will still be to bring you the best guests I can find. Guests with great stories, information and inspiration.

What you can expect in the next month or so is already living up to that promise.  There’s a “lost” episode called Caregiver Pathways. It’s about a program that takes people in the early stages out in the community to do things that give them purpose. Great episode, not sure how it got lost.

Then there’s a fantastic conversation on wether your loved one has truly forgotten you or lost the language skills to communicate your relationship. It’s a fascinating theory, one that I think may be true for many of our loved ones. You’ll have to tune in to find out why I don’t think that’s the case for my Mom.

Since you loved the episode on long term care insurance you’ll really love the one on Medicare Demystified. I learned a lot talking to Brooke so I know it’s a good one.

How about Art Therapy for Older Adults? If you follow me on Instagram, you may have seen my attempt at a different creative approach with my Mom. That reminds me, make sure you’re following me on Instagram or Twitter, that’s where I post the most. I’m on Facebook too.

I’m excited to dive into my network to find new guests so stay tuned!

Respite Care – Why You Need It & How To Get It

 

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Caregivers need to care for themselves too. That’s why respite care is important.

Caregivers need to take care of themselves, also known as respite care. Easier said than done I’m afraid. Are you aware that 65% of caregivers are hospitalized or dead before the person they’re caring for are gone? That’s a scary statistic but it’s not hard to believe.

Caregiving is hard and if you’re caring for someone with memory loss it’s even harder.  Lack of sleep because your loved ones sense of time is gone, the constant stress of having to think for two people. It can become too much. Without some time off, you could easily end up no good to both of you.

However, most people think respite care is expensive or requires a large time commitment. This episode of the podcast goes in to great detail on how to get respite care from free to paid.

To give you a highlight (although you should still listen) here are the top points my guest made.  Start with the people who are around you. Friends, family, neighbors or your faith community.  Many times these people can do small things that build up to a lot of help. There are online resources to help you get time off. Share The Care is one you should look into.  It’s a way to pull together your natural resources and supports to help provide care. It’s free.  Sometimes all you need to do is reach out and ask.

Understanding Dementia

New York State Caregiving and Respite Collalition 

Long Term Care Insurance Options Explained

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Long term care insurance options explained

As we age we know it’s likely that we’ll need some sort of external care. Most seniors I speak to are adamant that they don’t want to become a burden to their children. That’s admirable but it’s not always an option. Finding ways to make that desire a reality isn’t always easy either.

I know my Dad looked into and then rejected Long Term Care Insurance because it was too expensive.  Fortunately for my sister and I, Mom most likely has enough money to live the rest of her life in the community she’s at now.  That’s important because moving her again would be a nightmare I have no desire to repeat. Maintaining our Mom where she’s cared for and comfortable is our number 1 goal.

Reaching out to insurance agents about insurance options usually leads us down a sales path. That’s why I am happy to bring this episode to you. As a result of having a conversation with a broker you’ll have more knowledge when you talk to your own people.  Most noteworthy, there are more options than in earlier years so give this a listen.  There’s no sales pitch you have to sit through! This is a great way to answer many of your questions about long term care insurance.

To get ahold of Tim King

The Successful Caregiver

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Being a successful caregiver isn’t easy.

Being a successful caregiver is a challenge that many of us think we’re failing at becoming. When caring for someone with memory loss we’re faced with ever increasing challenges. As our loved one declines we have to take on more responsibilities that very few of us are ready for. Fewer have had no training on how to be a good caregiver.

Becoming successful at caregiving isn’t impossible. Following the advice of the many people who have been on this journey is the first step. On this episode of the podcast I talk to Rick Lauber. Rick cared for both of his parents and one of his stress relievers was writing. Thankfully his stress relieving led him to write two books on how to be a successful caregiver.

An Excerpt From his book:

You may be among the tens of millions of Americans who provide care for a parent — or you may be among the ten of millions who will.

When physical and mental health declines in aging parents many children are caught unprepared. Life cannot readily prepare you to provide excellent eldercare while balancing the demands on your time. Consequently, this book provides practical tips, realistic guidance, encouragement and insight into the time ahead.

  • Among other things, it answers:
    • Deciding when your parent stays at home or moves to
    assisted living?
    • What should you expect when caring for your elderly parents?
    • Who should you ask for help?
    • How do you balance caregiving responsibilities with your personal life?

The Successful Caregiver’s Guide includes extensive explanations of your options and checklists for differing types of eldercare to help you choose the best care possible for your loved one.

Because Rick faced this challenge head on we’re blessed with his guides and his wit. Enjoying this episode is a side benefit to the excellent advice you’ll receive.  Following his advice is easy because he’s been through this and lived to tell the tale, literally.

Guide to Becoming a Successful Caregiver

Episode on Caregiver Struggles

Independence, Security & Peace of Mind

The Story of the I’m Up App

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I’m Up App – Offering Independence, Security & Peace of Mind. Invite code 006.

 

Independence, security and peace of mind have never been easier to achieve for someone living alone. Using the simple check in app on your phone, your loved ones are notified that you’re up and you’re doing just fine.

This episode of Fading Memories tells the story behind the creation of the app.

In 2012, David’s wife, Paula moved out of their home to a memory care facility. His children lived in different parts of the country and he had never felt more alone in his life.

After a long nine year battle with Alzheimer’s, Paula passed in 2016. This was when the seed for the idea behind I’m Up was planted.

Having worked in the life insurance business for most of his lifetime, David was aware of the various pitfalls of aging. But Paula’s passing was what truly got him thinking about the various aspects of living alone as you age.

His Border Collies were his closest companions and couldn’t help but wonder who would care for them should he not wake up one day. Worse still, what if it was days or weeks before his kids found out?

There had to be a simpler way. Tune in to hear the full story. The conversation was great, when the internet connection worked right!

See I’m Up in action!

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